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5 Things To Keep You Busy During Middle of the Night Feedings

Night Feedings can feel long and exhausting. You want to get baby fed and get back to bed and that holds true whether you are nursing or bottle feeding. Here’s a few ideas to keep you busy and keep you awake.

1. Read- I bring either my kindle or phone with me up to Sawyers room and will read while I’m nursing to pass the time.

2. Listen to music, an audiobook or a podcast- Listening to an audiobook, music or podcast is great if you don’t have a free hand because of bottle feeding or just how the baby is positioned on you. Or if you really just don’t have the energy to want to read something l.

3. Research- have you been meaning to research a new bed you want to buy, or look for a new restaurant to check out? Use this time while you have it to get your Google on.

4. Meditation- use this time to meditate or quietly reflect. You could listen to a guided meditation from YouTube or any one of the apps available.

5. Streaming- put some headphones on or ear buds in, prop your phone up and put your favorite show on. It will give you something to do and help time pass until baby is done eating and ready to go back to bed.

Remember that night feedings are just a season that you are currently in. It may seem like it will last forever but eventually baby won’t need to have multiple or perhaps any feeds during the middle of the night.

Until next time, Stef

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Transitioning from Cosleeping to the Crib

At therapy last week, we discussed and made a plan to get both kids out of our bedroom (and bed) and get Sawyer to his crib and Colt to his toddler bed. We started that very afternoon. No one was getting restful sleep and I was feeling so incredibly touched out. I needed some space. It was really getting to me that I had no personal space and no time to myself and was making my anxiety worse.

It’s been almost a week and Sawyer has slept for 2 naps a day and each night in his crib. The first few nights were good, then for about 2 nights he was up almost every hour and a half and let me tell you, that was rough. I am so used to co-sleeping and just nursing Sawyer back to sleep that for me to get up out of bed, go upstairs, and then nurse him and then transfer him to his crib, it’s a whole process. Last night was great though! I believe it’s because I was doing some research, etc. on how many hours a day an almost 8 month old needs to actually sleep and I came across an article that said how many hours a day should be nap time and if baby naps, then xyz is bedtime, if baby doesn’t nap, it’s early and you’ll put them to bed at xyz time. So yesterday we did the naps based on how many hours he should be napping and then he was in bed 3.5 hours later after his last nap and it was WONDERFUL! He woke up a few times and was a little fussy, but not crying and fell back to sleep within a few minutes. Around 1am he was a little more fussy so I got up and went upstairs to nurse him and was able to get him transferred back to the crib without him waking and then he didn’t wake up again until about 5:30am. So I’ll consider that a huge win.

But, my problem with all this is, I am hearing him cry even when he’s not! It’s the oddest thing and I think a lot of parents can relate to hear phantom cries. I’ll wake up and look at the baby monitor and feel like I just heard him crying but there he is, fast asleep. I know I can’t be the only one. Has this happened to you?

We are going through the cosleeping to crib process earlier with Sawyer than we did with Colt. With Colt, I stopped breastfeeding and we transferred him to the crib at 19 months. Colt did good for about 9 months or so, but when we brought Sawyer home from the hospital last August, all bets were off. Everyone was in mom and dad’s bed. FOMO anyone?

When talking with my therapist, we decided that it’s best to focus on Sawyer first, because with Colt so attached to me, I need Sawyer to be asleep and in a routine before we start working on getting Colt into his new room and into his toddler bed. He’s only taken 1 nap in there so far. We are going to give it maybe 2-3 weeks of Sawyer in his crib and then go from there to get Colt to his room. I’m looking forward to the day when I can sprawl out in my bed and not have to worry about wearing something nursing friendly to bed LOL.

Don’t get me wrong, I love love love the snuggles and cuddles and seeing my sweet boys sleep at night, but at this point, for my mental health, I need some space. Sawyer is doing really well overall with the crib. We have a weighted sleep sack that he’s using and I have it flipped backwards since he’s a belly sleeper a majority of the time, so then it’s the weighted part on his back and feels like a hand there so it’s comforting to him.

I already feel a weight off my shoulders due to the time I gain from not having to contact nap. Like I said, I love the snuggles and love holding Sawyer to sleep, but I don’t want it to be for every nap. If we are home, I’m going to make every effort to make sure he naps in his crib. It gives me time to do things I want to do, like write this blog post. Sweet Sawyer is taking his 2nd nap of the day in his crib right now. And guess where Colt is napping? In our bed with my husband Kyle. Things are changing, and it’s important to remember it’s all a season of parenthood.

Making a change like this is definitely an adjustment, but thankfully so far there hasn’t been too many tears, mostly just whining. I don’t think my momma heart could take tons of crying with this process. I’ll add also that to help Sawyer sleep, the camera for the baby monitor has music playing, I have a fan on that has noise and he also has a sound machine. This is not only for him to be able to sleep peacefully, but with a loud 3 year old and 2 dogs who bark at everything, it’s necessary. I don’t want anyone to have to tiptoe around because the baby is sleeping.

Tell me what you think, did you cosleep? Were your kids in their crib right from the start? I support all parents and know that what works for me and my family may be entirely different than what works for you and yours. Parenthood is about lifting each other up and finding your virtual village to help. Parenthood is HARD.

Much love, Stef

#postpartum #ppd #anxiety #postpartumdepression #cosleeping #roomsharing #cribsleeping #thebevinsclan #therapist #mentalhealthawareness #lifestyleblogger #motherhoodblog #momswhoblog #virtualvillage

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My Experience With Postpartum Depression

I have postpartum depression. It doesn’t mean I am not overjoyed by my baby. It means that despite that, I struggle most days. I feel touched out, worn out, exhausted, overjoyed, mentally and physically drained.

So many tasks seem overwhelming and impossible, but having an almost 3 year old and a 6 month old means carrying on with day to day activities despite those feelings. Frustration comes swift and quick most days and I find myself having to actively remind myself to take a deep breath or walk away when I need a minute so I don’t feel like I’m going to start yelling. The majority of the times, it is me and my feelings that make me have “rage” or feel like I’m at a breaking point, it’s not Colt (my almost 3 year old) or Sawyer (6 months old) or even my husband Kyle.

It’s just my own feelings of being overwhelmed and just wondering how in the hell I’m going to do everything. But that’s the thing. I don’t have to do everything. I have my husband, I have a support system. My parents, sisters and in-laws are all close by. They all pitch in and help. I have great friends, both local and ones I’ve formed online friendships with over a bonding of having children and a love of reading. I have outlets. I’m taking medication to help with my postpartum depression and I go to therapy every 2 weeks.

The coping tools I have in place are exactly what I needed. I wanted to write this blog post not to scare anyone, but to say it’s okay and normal if you have similar feelings of overwhelm and mom guilt like I do. Especially if you’ve got a toddler and a new baby. But, it’s important to reach out. Have a support system, have someone to talk to. It doesn’t even have to be a therapist. A friend who can either relate because they are a fellow parent or even just struggle with depression themselves. Depression shows up for people in so many different ways and there are so many different triggers that can set you off and make you feel like your bouts of depression and low moods can last forever.

The other coping tools I’ve formed for myself since 2022 has started has been exercising. A lot. It makes me feel good about ME. And coping with my postpartum depression is about me so it is important that I feel good about myself and give myself an outlet like exercise. I found a great program in the beginning of January called obé fitness (this is not at all sponsored). It’s a great site that has so many different types of workout videos (live and on demand) from hiit to cardio to jump roping to spin, yoga, meditation, etc. I’ve found a community there through their facebook group for members of the site and I’ve really enjoyed posting my #sweatyselfies after I do a workout. They have videos that last from 5 minutes to an hour so there’s nearly no excuse to not at least try to get one video in a day. I also have been paying more attention to eating healthier. Although I am vegan, there is still so much opportunity to eat junk food and not eat the right foods. I’m actively trying to eat more whole foods plant based and eat less processed stuff. I’m rediscovering a love for salads which had gone away when I was pregnant with Colt back in 2018.

I think coping with postpartum depression looks different for everyone and while the tools I have used for me might not work for you, it is important to try to find what helps. Dealing with postpartum depression by yourself or trying to mask it behind fake smiles and nightly tears can be a lonely place. No one should have to go through it alone. If you feel you don’t have anyone to talk to, please reach out, even to me. My email is stef@thebevinsclan.com or feel free to message me on Instagram.

I hope sharing my experience with postpartum depression has made you feel a little less alone. It’s still on going with me. I’m 6 months postpartum with Sawyer and every day is a challenge, but I’m open about my journey and hope it has helped. If you’ve struggled with postpartum depression, or any type of depression, I’d love to know what has worked for you in terms of tools to support your mental health.

Much love, Stef

#postpartumdepression #anxiety #depression #newmom #ppd #therapy #therapist #copingtools #mentalhealth #thebevinsclan #momswhoblog #motherhoodblog #lifestyleblogger #toolstocope #exercise #healthyeating #vegan #plantbased #wholefoods #wholefoodsplantbased

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Postpartum Body


It can be so damn hard coming to terms with your new body after having a baby, or two. But let’s normalize the stretch marks on the belly, how the belly is soft and squishy, and the love handles. IT’S ALL NORMAL. I grew a human for 9 months. It’s hard to keep that in mind sometimes when you see other moms ‘bounce’ back when it seems like you aren’t but everyone is on a different journey so as hard as it is, try not to compare.
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I’m trying to keep focused on working out and moving my body because it helps both my physical and mental health.
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Just remember momma, you grew a human, that shits hard and YOU did it 💚

#postpartum #ppd #postpartumdepression #postpartumbody #momlife #thebevinsclan #momswhoblog #realrawmoms

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7 Postpartum Products You Need On Your Baby Registry

It is becoming more popular to include items for birthing parents on the baby registry. I just had my 2nd baby, Sawyer, in August 2021. This time around, I made sure to include items I knew I’d need postpartum since it was my 2nd baby.

It is so important to take care of yourself while you’re taking care of your new baby and the rest of your household too whether it be other children, pets, spouses and just general household duties. As the old saying goes – you can’t pour from an empty cup. If you don’t take care of you and find support with helpful people (and products), it’s hard to take everything’s else on.

These items are based on my experience as a mom who had a vaginal delivery and is breastfeeding. Some or none of these items may prove helpful to you if your delivery and postpartum needs are different than mine.

Electric Wearable Breast Pump

Manual Breast Pump – I love this so much more than my traditional electric pump

Nursing Maternity Tank Tops – I pretty much live in these tanks when I am nursing. I wear them under my regular shirt or sweatshirt because they are just so much easier than a nursing bra plus my stomach is covered then. Win-win as far as I’m concerned

Peri-Bottle -this comes in handy after a vaginal delivery. I used it for about a week or two postpartum when toilet paper was just not going to happen 🤣, you’ll probably get one at the hospital but if not, here’s one that works well

Adult Diapers – so worth it and way better than the mesh underwear they give you at the hospital

Comfy and loose pants – these are maternity pants but they are great for postpartum as they are nice and loose.

Washable breastpads

*This blog contain affiliate/Amazon associate links. That means, if you make a purchase I may get a small compensation. I only share products I truly love! Thank you for your support.

#postpartum #newmoms #momhacks #momswhoblog #thebevinsclan #postpartumhacks #amazonfinds #shopwithstef #amazonfinds #amazonpostpartum

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Merry Christmas 2021 🎅

Good morning and Merry Christmas to everyone.  We slept in until about 8am then came out to do presents for the kids from momma and Dada and Santa. We are going to my parents later and to my in-laws this evening.

I hope everyone has a great day with their loved ones. Stay tuned this upcoming week for some new blogs 🎄

#christmas #christmasmorning #firstchristmas #family #toddlerchristmas #santa #santacame